There are several stereotypes about what is success; unquestioned definitions of what it is. Interpretations where the habitual way of perceiving it is mainly related to an on-going sensation to need external approval.
And in a world where skills in personal marketing have become so important and the number of “likes” gives us the impression that we are defined by them, attention seems to have centered more on what we appear to be, rather than on what we genuinely are. This constant search for the validation of others may lead us to be not that transparent, more than with others than with ourselves, to lose confidence in what is important to and valued by us.
If we have a clear direction where we want to go and know the purpose and the value of what we do, convincing others is not necessary. . . Our pursuit of success can be driven by more truthful parameters for ourselves, more than a sense of insecurity or scarcity.
The definition of success is something that can be built by ourselves; for example some neuroscientists and mind researchers describe that the mind can experience a sensation of success when the following characteristics are present:
Clarity. When the mind is clear and aspects such as peace and equanimity emerge, we can be aware of the different circumstances, we can define more easily how to move in changing situations and accomplish our objectives. When clarity arises, solutions come up in a natural way.
Having a purpose that meets our potential. A clear purpose is a counterweight to complacency or comfort. This not only keeps us active and energizes us, but also drives our curiosity to explore how far we can go. It is an internal engine to reach our goal and our own reference to measure progress. Success demands us to get out the comfort zone.
Courage. It helps us not to abandon our purpose, nor to close when we feel vulnerable. Courage is the attribute that allow us to have confidence in our own power and capacity, it allows us to go on when we are afraid.
Empathy. The capacity to feel connected and connect with the emotions of others gives us the foundation to see that accomplishing our goals depends to a large extent on the interconnection with other people. And when there is empathy, the success of others does not threaten us, we participate in others achievements.
Satisfaction. The experience of having accomplished what we wanted to achieve, and even when we do not, of appreciating our own efforts of going in the direction we want to go.
Generosity. A mind that enjoys giving and is open to share what it knows. Generosity helps us to recognize that we are full of internal resources. It allows us to relish on what we have and what we accomplish.
The question is how willing we are to deconstruct or our fixed ideas and start building new ones that perhaps are more meaningful for ourselves. . .